Love, Relationships & Spirituality for WOMEN

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Everyone holds their own experiences, perceptions and ideas on what they consider to be a healthy romantic relationship.  One thing I’ve noticed in the spiritual community, and with female spiritualists especially, are messy love lives.  I’m not here to judge anyone on who they choose to date or what kind of relationship they have.  Monotony, monogamy, polygamy, do whatever makes you happy.  What people do behind closed doors is strictly their business and their business only.  However, it’s hard for me to ignore what seems to be an epidemic among women in the New Age field.  A heightened sensitivity to spirits and angels often leaves spiritual healers and readers with a big ego and the sense that they know the answer to everything.  And I’m here to tell you, that we do not know everything.  We only know what we have experienced for ourselves or what we’ve mastered through working with clients.

Ask any woman and they’ll be able to give you a name of at least one other woman (usually older) who’s told them to never trust a man.  That men are all dogs and to remain single forever.  That mindset is complete bullshit and will only help you to attract cheaters and losers.  Trust me, it’s something that I suffered from for years until I finally decided to heal my past hurts and make room for the right people to enter my life.  In my opinion, claiming that all men are dogs is just as ridiculous as men saying all women are gold diggers.  There’s bad men and there’s bad women.  Whenever someone tells me that all men are disgusting, I ask, “Well, how often are you in the presence of a good and trustworthy person?”  And that usually forces them to look at the whole picture.

I’ve met and worked with a lot of spiritualists, mostly female healers and psychics.  Spiritual people more commonly have had complicated upbringings.  Thus caused us to work through our own baggage and redirect what it is that we want out of life.  Neglectful parents, violent family members, molestation, trauma, are what many spiritualists have endured throughout their childhood.  Such experiences leave many individuals with a distorted perception on what they consider a good and healthy relationship.  What most of us forget is that the true love relationship always begins with self.

Everyone you’ve attracted into your life poses as a mirror.  Like attracts like.  Consciously or subconsciously, you’ve drawn the good and bad individuals into your current reality.  If all you seem to attract are fakes and liars, then I ask you to take a step back and ask yourself what part of your life needs to be healed.  Do you have a sour relationship with your father?  Maybe a bad relationship with both parents?  Do you still suffer from the aftermath of elementary school bullies?  Past hurts and traumas need to be healed and released in order to make room for good to enter into your life.

For the men reading this, you need to be aware that an absent father figure can cause you to suffer from daddy issues as well.  I’ve noticed that men who’ve grown up with a poor example of a father, or no father at all, feel the need to over compensate their masculinity.  It’s like they always have to be the toughest guys in the room, treat women like dirt, and struggle with male to male platonic relationships.  Most of these guys have no friends, except the women they keep on rotation.  It’s a pathetic lifestyle and something men need to work through in order to attract the kind of woman they yearn for.

There’s a spiritualist who used to flaunt on social media how he had all of these women that wanted to marry him and blah, blah, blah.  Your typical egotistical male crap.  Fellas, if you want a nice girl you’re going to have to stop acting like every woman in the world wants you.  Do you think pretty women don’t have their pick of the litter?  Do you think pretty women can’t find a man to take care of them?  You remind a woman how many options you have, I guarantee she’ll place you on her rotation just as quickly.  You want to attract a good woman?  You need to be a good man.  You want a healthy and faithful woman, you need to be a nice and faithful man.  Again, like attracts like.  I laugh when arrogant assholes complain about only attracting ‘loose’ women, yet they’re loose men.  Like attracts like, how is that so hard to understand?

Find love and happiness within yourself.  Get out of that unhealthy relationship.  Learn to be happy on your own.  Allow the universe to help you.  Turn off the world outside and really look inside yourself.  You are beautiful.  You are lovable.  You are love.

Blessed be my loves and enjoy your weekend.

 

 

 

 

Solar Plexus PTSD Exercise

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The solar plexus is by far my favourite chakra to work on.  Although, I’m pretty sure I’ve said that about every chakra.  I love the solar plexus because it’s where all of your power resides.  It’s where you find your self-esteem, your astral body, career, anger, and life purpose.  It also governs the sense of sight and vision.  If you commonly suffer from blurry vision, then you most than likely need to work on your Solar plexus.

The solar plexus chakra (also known as the MANIPURA) is the energy center I’ve struggled with the most.  When this energy center is blocked, you’re riddled with fear.  I was scared to make decisions, to step outside of my comfort zone, and afraid to just LIVE.  I was also afraid to just be myself out of fear of being judged.

We all have a fear of being judged.  We all have insecurities.  That’s what makes us human.  An over abundance of the Solar Plexus makes one arrogant, stubborn, judgemental, and very temperamental (also a trait of a blocked root chakra).  You may have a lot of projects lined up but can never find the time or motivation to finish them.  People who think the world revolves around them also suffer from an over abundance of the solar plexus.

When I unblocked my solar plexus I felt FREE.  I felt an inner calm and felt present in my waking life.   And for the first time I felt connected to any and everyone.  You are no better than the next person no matter how much material and monetary success you have behind your name.  We all have struggles and hurdles that we have to work through.  Life is a journey.  And a balanced spiritual body can help you to overcome your darkest hours.

I decided to change this into a PTSD exercise.  And I would ask that you try this exercise after practicing my Root Chakra PTSD meditation.  In order to receive energy from the Earth and into your solar plexus, the Root and sacral need to be unblocked.  Do not skip my other exercises because in the end you’re only cheating yourself.

A traumatic event can cause harm to ones self-esteem and damage their ‘light center.’  The solar plexus is everything you are.  And everything you can be.  If this center is under active, you will never be able to reach your full potential.  Depression is a major side effect when this energy center is blocked and unable to receive energy.

This exercise will be slightly different than the ones I’ve previously posted.  Like all of my other meditation exercises, visualization is paramount.

This isn’t a meditative track but it’s what you will listen to for this solar plexus healing exercise.

With each song you will visualize yourself in a different place where you are surrounded by the colour yellow.  These places must be positive and full of sunlight.  This meditation exercise will raise your vibration and is meant to remind you that you’re safe and loved by the universe.  The universe loves you, that’s why it’s lead you to my blog to help your spirit heal.

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Your first stop will be in a field of beautiful yellow sunflowers where the sun will shine down on you.  The suns rays are a beautiful way to open up your solar plexus.  Close your eyes, listen to the music, calm your nerves and imagine yourself surrounded by beautiful sunflowers dancing in the wind.  Make sure to also draw attention to your solar plexus which is now glowing and spinning with delight.

Repeat in your mind say, ‘I am light.  I am light.’

You are the power of the sun.  The power your spirit holds is infinite and cannot be created or destroyed.

Now you don’t need to change your surroundings every time the track changes.  You can stay in each place until you feel it is time to let go and move onto the next destination.

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Next stop will be in a field of dandelions.  Again, the sun is shining down on you and your glowing and spinning solar plexus are taking in the yellow that surrounds you.

In your mind repeat the words, ‘I am pure.  I am pure.”

forrest  Next you will get lost in a beautiful forest where the leaves are a stunning yellow and soft orange.  Take in the sun and the cool breeze.  You will repeat in your mind, ‘I am whole.  I am whole.’

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The last place you will be floating up in the sky.  Picture yourself naked and free of any restraints.  You are beautiful.  You are radiant.

Just as the sun starts to set, gold coloured glitter will fall from the sun and into your solar plexus as it shines and spins.  Repeat in your mind, ‘I am power.  I am power.’

You don’t have to go to the places I listed above.  Be creative.  Use your imagination and envision whatever and wherever you want.  Just keep it positive and beautiful.

 

Blessed be ❤